14 day plan


Day 7 of 14


Proverbs 18:24

24Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers.

Reflections:  A friend is close A friend is someone who is close to you. In some cases there are friends who are closer to us then our biological relatives. We see in this passage that in friendship there is a deepness to your relationship. You have lowered down your wall of defences and made yourself vulnerable. They know the real you, warts and all. There is real intimacy. In my twenties I lived in a different town to my family, and after a few years I realised that my friends had become like
family. It was my friends who knew my fears and where I was at. And they knew this because I had let them in. I’d been intimate with them about my hopes, dreams, fears and emotions. They knew me deeply. You don’t need to be geographically close to be a close friend. Friends may be separated by time and space but can still be close, especially with the help of technology.  Over the years I’ve come to appreciate that there’s a difference between a friend and an acquaintance. Drew Hunter describes it as the difference between snorkelling and deep-sea diving. When you go snorkelling, you hover on the surface and kind of bob along. You see things from a distance through metres of water. It’s beautiful and fun, but you don’t get to see things up close. Deep-sea diving, on the other hand, is quite different. You go down, you go into depth, you get to
see things up close and personal. It’s totally okay to have acquaintances. I have lots of them and when I see them I have lots of fun. But it’s helpful to know that they are not friends.

Questions:  Do you struggle to go deeper than superficialities in your conversations with friends? If so, how can you change this? If no, how can I encourage my friends to have deep conversations? 

Prayer: Thank you God for the gift of friendship that allows us to share deeply with our brothers and sisters. Please help us to be vulnerable in our friendships for the sake of your kingdom. Amen. 

Proverbs 18:1-24

1People who do not get along with others are interested only in themselves; they will disagree with what everyone else knows is right.

2A fool does not care whether he understands a thing or not; all he wants to do is show how smart he is.

3Sin and shame go together. Lose your honor, and you will get scorn in its place.

4A person's words can be a source of wisdom, deep as the ocean, fresh as a flowing stream.

5It is not right to favor the guilty and keep the innocent from receiving justice.

6When some fool starts an argument, he is asking for a beating.

7When a fool speaks, he is ruining himself; he gets caught in the trap of his own words.

8Gossip is so tasty—how we love to swallow it!

9A lazy person is as bad as someone who is destructive.

10The Lord is like a strong tower, where the righteous can go and be safe. 11Rich people, however, imagine that their wealth protects them like high, strong walls around a city.

12No one is respected unless he is humble; arrogant people are on the way to ruin.

13 Listen before you answer. If you don't, you are being stupid and insulting.

14Your will to live can sustain you when you are sick, but if you lose it, your last hope is gone.

15Intelligent people are always eager and ready to learn.

16Do you want to meet an important person? Take a gift and it will be easy.

17The first person to speak in court always seems right until his opponent begins to question him.

18If two powerful people are opposing each other in court, casting lots can settle the issue.

19Help your relatives and they will protect you like a strong city wall, but if you quarrel with them, they will close their doors to you.

20You will have to live with the consequences of everything you say. 21What you say can preserve life or destroy it; so you must accept the consequences of your words.

22 Find a wife and you find a good thing; it shows that the Lord is good to you.

23When the poor speak, they have to be polite, but when the rich answer, they are rude.

24Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers.