Bible.com.au: Reading Plan - Family Peacemaking

Reflection: Knowing how to confront things is key and when it comes to family conflict, it’s rarely that one party is 100% right and the other is 100% wrong. How much of the conflict am I prepared to own before I accuse the other? What if rather than accuse, I take responsibility for my contribution to the conflict? What if I consider the other person’s perspective before mine and negotiate a solution from that place?

I’ve found that statements like ‘you always’ and ‘you never’ are rarely helpful and rarely actually true. Instead, it’s better to talk about my own thoughts and feelings, to keep it brief, and not demand an immediate response.

If I’m on the receiving end of loving correction, it’s best if I adopt a posture of quietness and stillness… as hopefully I would before God, but have rarely managed as well in my human relationships. I should let the other person speak until they finish, and rather than react it would be good to take some time out so that I can respond in a much better way after taking time to process the feedback honestly.

Giving and receiving feedback well is hard and best done with a very real understanding of the other person being made equally in the image of God, and respecting that they are of infinite value and worth. I don’t mean to sound sanctimonious when I say that… I really do think it makes a difference to our interactions.

Question: Do you need to practice phrases like ‘that makes sense”, “I can see that”, and “I’m sorry”? (I know I do!)

Prayer: Dear Lord, would you help me to be a ‘responder’ before I am a ‘reactor’ please? May I truly recognise that all those I am relationship with are equally made in your image and may I afford them all the value and worth that this demands. Amen.

1 Peter 3:1-22

Wives and Husbands

1 If you are a wife, you must put your husband first. Even if he opposes our message, you will win him over by what you do. No one else will have to say anything to him, 2because he will see how you honor God and live a pure life. 3 Don't depend on things like fancy hairdos or gold jewelry or expensive clothes to make you look beautiful. 4Be beautiful in your heart by being gentle and quiet. This kind of beauty will last, and God considers it very special.

5Long ago those women who worshiped God and put their hope in him made themselves beautiful by putting their husbands first. 6For example, Sarah obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her true children, if you do right and don't let anything frighten you.

7 If you are a husband, you should be thoughtful of your wife. Treat her with honor, because she isn't as strong as you are, and she shares with you in the gift of life. Then nothing will stand in the way of your prayers.

Suffering for Doing Right

8Finally, all of you should agree and have concern and love for each other. You should also be kind and humble. 9Don't be hateful and insult people just because they are hateful and insult you. Instead, treat everyone with kindness. You are God's chosen ones, and he will bless you. The Scriptures say,

10 “Do you really love life?

Do you want to be happy?

Then stop saying cruel things

and quit telling lies.

11Give up your evil ways

and do right,

as you find and follow

the road to peace.

12The Lord watches over

everyone who obeys him,

and he listens

to their prayers.

But he opposes everyone

who does evil.”

13Can anyone really harm you for being eager to do good deeds? 14 Even if you have to suffer for doing good things, God will bless you. So stop being afraid and don't worry about what people might do. 15Honor Christ and let him be the Lord of your life.

Always be ready to give an answer when someone asks you about your hope. 16Give a kind and respectful answer and keep your conscience clear. This way you will make people ashamed for saying bad things about your good conduct as a follower of Christ. 17You are better off to obey God and suffer for doing right than to suffer for doing wrong.

18Christ died once for our sins.

An innocent person died

for those who are guilty.

Christ did this

to bring you to God,

when his body

was put to death

and his spirit

was made alive.

19Christ then preached to the spirits that were being kept in prison. 20 They had disobeyed God while Noah was building the boat, but God had been patient with them. Eight people went into that boat and were brought safely through the flood.

21Those flood waters were like baptism that now saves you. But baptism is more than just washing your body. It means turning to God with a clear conscience, because Jesus Christ was raised from death. 22Christ is now in heaven, where he sits at the right side of God. All angels, authorities, and powers are under his control.

Family Peacemaking

Day 8 of 14

CEV

1 Peter 3:9-11

Days

1 Peter 3:1-22