Reflection: Forgiveness isn’t a guarantee that you won’t be hurt again, and there is no guarantee that the offender won’t re offend.
When God offered us his grace, he didn’t get a guarantee that we would always be better people into the future and that we wouldn’t break his heart again. I wonder if any of us can honestly say that our actions, behaviours, thoughts and words have caused God no heartbreak and grief from the time we accepted his love and grace until now? I can’t. But here’s the thing. No matter what has happened to you, no matter how or by who you’ve been hurt, if you choose to forgive, I believe God will at least begin the redemptive healing we all long for. Rather than us attempting to project ourselves with anger and pain, we allow God to protect us with his infinitely more valuable grace and hope instead.
The decision to forgive a family offence or offender, perhaps a serial offender, is probably the hardest choice we will ever make. Some things seem just too terrible to be forgiven and on our own I don’t think we have either the power or righteousness to forgive very well. So, when we truly forgive, we make God’s forgiveness our own and allow Christ’s forgiveness to flow through us.
Question: Is there a serial offender in your life? What will it take for you to forgive them? Who can you reach out to for help?
Prayer: Lord, I need your help with this. (Name what ‘this’ is and ask for the help that you need). Draw close to me and comfort me, I pray, amen.