Reflection: Peace breaking generally begins only with words, so in a family context, it’s worth considering our own. Do we use words to unite or separate – to encourage or discourage?
Can any of us honestly say that that we have never spoken or acted out of anger or bitterness? Does every single word we speak and every action we take come from a place of genuinely wanting to build others up? Of course not. But while perfection isn’t necessary, checking our attitude – and changing it – is… and on a continual basis if you’re as imperfect as me. May I suggest that the family unit is the perfect place to practice overlooking minor offenses – simply choosing to overlook the small but often intensely annoying things that other people we share life with do?
I’m not talking about serious offences here – we should not be silent about behaviours that damage or abuse others.
There is no legitimate place for emotional, mental, verbal, physical or sexual abuse in families or any other relationship – it’s a shocking betrayal of trust and if you or anyone you know is experiencing any of these I urge you to seek help. Likewise, if you are the offender, I urge you to seek help too.
Question: Are you subjected to serious offences that damage and abuse? Do you subject others to serious offences? It’s time to get help on either front!
Prayer: Lord, give me a contrite spirit that I might hear what it is you want to say to me, today. Give me grace to overlook minor offenses (as you do mine), and courage to confront those things that go beyond this. Amen.